Loyalty Instead Of Lawfulness – Conservative Women And Macho-Men They Admire


Dora Maar’s “Pont de L’alma”, Paris (1935)

What is the most important part of the female anatomy for a despotic male? Harmonious face? Meticulous hairdo? Neck of purity? Breasts of generosity? Coquettish pubic hair? Paradise Bird? Her shoulders with underarms asking for a man’s hands’ pressure? Not at all. It’s women’s legs. But not if they are impeccably straight, but if they are reliable as a playmate. It’s legs that will come to the man when he wants. This is what Dora Maar seems to express in her amazingly penetrating photograph.

When women’s legs are responsive to macho man’s “whistle” his despotic call doesn’t need to ask for anything – just to put his fingers into the configuration we see in Dora Maar’s photograph – as if he wants to take the woman’s approaching legs as the stem of crystal wine glass. Machoistic mannerisms’ of irresistibility for conservative (traditional) women is not limited to males of peasant or proletarian or tough sport background. It can be even more potent with women in upper-middle or even higher class type of males or even the (function!) of money.

Conservative women (CW) are curious creatures in whom love for their macho-spouse is dissolved into unconditional admiration and loyalty. In other words, their feelings towards the head of their family or owner of their hearts are psychologically organized around their obedience to male authority. It’s, as if, the woman’s very trembling soul becomes a junior addition to the personality of her male amorous hero. This doesn’t mean that the character of conservative women in their very everyday life with conservative men (CM) necessarily becomes a domestic servant-like, but that male’s social views and “philosophical” positions are completely accepted by the female spouse who will automatically defend them in front of the world and believe whatever her amorous patriarch will say. CWs are pre-democratic organisms – for them, for example, the idea that every person in democracy has his/her right and obligation to independently vote – is a perverse and dangerous idealism. They will side with or vote for their husbands (if the last ones happened to run for public position). CWs are always an extension of their macho-husbands’ ideological views. They cannot, for example, be witnesses in relation to their husbands – they don’t have the minimum of independence of the soul to be objective. If a woman has a judgment different from her husband or disagrees with him on important issues it for the macho’s wife (for the “macho wife”) automatically means that such a woman betrays her spouse or beloved and even that she doesn’t love him.

For a macho-sissy (macho megalomaniacally sensitive, i.e. expecting woman to accept his “greatness” without reservations) to have a sexual intercourse with a woman is not necessary to be possessive but rather indifferent to her identity. Macho-sissies expect that their superiority not only over their spouses but over other machos and, of course, under-machos, is obligatory for women they are connected with – so vulnerable they are to refutation. They’re intolerant not only to women who rejected or abandoned them, but who accept them without recognizing their “exceptionalism”.

But what is signified by the two towers in the background, behind the bridge? It seems, it’s a symbol of despotic macho-sissy and “macho-woman” as exemplary conservative marital (or just amorous) couple. But it’s also a metaphor of permanent political alertness of the very institution of conservative (between macho-sissy and “macho-woman”) marriage. These two figures-towers are like eternal sentinels watching for and guarding against any deviation from the very social institution of traditional marriage with its cult of macho-patriarch.

Contrary to traditional macho-marriage, Dora Maar’s relations with Pablo Picasso in all its ecstasies and difficulties, in all its creative apogees and difficult melodies of freedom between the two – is the epitome of democratic relationships which deserves our admiration.